Bereavement Ministry
The time following a loved one’s death is often difficult for family and friends. The Bereavement Ministry is a vital ministry at Christ Our Light which provides compassionate care for those in need.
Bereavement Ministry/funeral preparation
This is a huge ministry just by volume. We typically have about 100+ funerals at Christ Our Light each year. Maybe half of them are parishioners or are related to parishioners. We get a lot of calls from funeral homes asking for us to have a funeral for someone who was Catholic and did not have a home parish. All are welcome, alive or deceased. Trained bereavement ministers meet with family members to plan the funeral for their deceased loved one.
Cards that are sent out throughout the year for those who have lost a loved one
We send out cards on the first anniversary of loss. We include a CareNote on the first anniversary of your loss. We also send out a card prior to Christmas for those who lost a loved one since last Christmas along with a CareNote about getting through the holidays when you’ve lost a loved one. The bereavement ministers sign the card for the families they ministered to.
November 2 Mass of Remembrance
This is a lovely memorial, and the friends and family members who come really appreciate it. Bereavement volunteers also help with this Mass. A letter goes out to all those who lost a loved one since the last November 2 Mass. Bereavement ministers follow up with a phone call to all the families they ministered to the previous year.
Care Notes
We have a Care Notes rack. We try to include ones for mental health, spiritual life, ones for teens, family issues and issues of loss.
Remembrance for those who have lost a child
Oct. 15 is the international day for those who have lost a child. Our tradition has been to put out a tablecloth and people can put the name or other remembrance of a child or grandchild they have lost. We don’t make any distinction if the child died pre-birth, after birth, as a child or even an adult child of someone. Losing a child is losing a child. This cloth is put on the altar for the month of November as we remember All Souls.
Some other aspects of bereavement ministry include helping people find an appropriate grief support group if they are looking for one. This may include making them aware of TLA (To Live Again), a support group specifically for widows and widowers or helping them find a support group from another loss through GriefShare (griefshare.org) or through services provided by one of our local hospices. This may also include a referral to one of our Stephen ministers.
If anyone is interested in learning more about this ministry, please contact Julie DeMareo in the parish office. Training is done online with a session that lasts two hours. Trainees then shadow experienced bereavement ministers until they feel comfortable in that role. A special thank you to our present bereavement ministers:
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Groups and individuals make sandwiches for Cathedral Kitchen, Joseph's House, the Cathedral Lunch program, and St. Bart’s. This is generally scheduled for the third Sunday of each month in the parish center from 8:00 am – 10:30 am. You are invited to bring a king-sized loaf of bread, a pound of turkey or beef bologna and a half pound of American cheese. There are announcements at Mass and in the church bulletin. Parishioners are welcome to make sandwiches at home and drop them off on the third Sunday of each month between 8:00 am - 10:30 am in the parish center.
